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You and your fiance thought it would be truly romantic to write your own vows for the wedding but now that it’s time to start the task, you’re not sure where to begin. Unsure of how to articulate such deep, personal feelings? Do you write them together or separate? From the logistics to the words themselves, we’ve got everything you need to know and do to ensure your weddings vows are perfect.

Get Permission – If you’re getting married in a house of worship, they may have you recite traditional vows so before you take pen to paper, get clearance from your officiant to recite personalized vows. Keep in mind he or she will likely want to review them in advance.

Make a Plan – Get organized and make sure you and your fiance are on the same page. Determine whether or not you want to write the vows together; you may even choose to recite the same vows. Also decide whether or not you’ll be showing them to each other prior to the ceremony.

Outline Your Thoughts – Creating an outline is an effective way to banish even the most stubborn case of writer’s block. Begin by outlining what you love about your fiance, what you like about you two as a couple, and finally what you are promising each other. From there you’ll be able to expound on your feelings and craft your vows.

Find a Tone – Do you want your vows to be romantic and touching or humorous and endearing? Determine what kind of tone you want and most importantly, make sure the words are genuine and coming from your heart.

Short and Sweet - Keep it concise. No matter how beautiful and poetic your vows may be, anything much longer than a minute or two will have guests starting to fidget!